Divorce was traditionally viewed as a highly contentious and adversarial process. However, couples are now starting to realize that there are no winners in a highly-contested divorce. 

For this reason, mediation has become much more popular. Essentially, mediation comprises a less formal process that aims to seek equitable solutions for all parties. How can you help ensure that your mediation is successful? 

Put the kids first 

You and your ex may no longer be able to see eye to eye on most issues. However, one thing you can agree on is the happiness of your children. If you have kids, try making this the focal point of the mediation process. 

Put your differences with your spouse to one side for the time being, and focus on coming up with a solution that allows your children to continue to thrive. Once you have settled matters related to the kids, you might even find it easier to reach common ground on other issues. 

See it through 

Divorce is an uncomfortable position for everyone and mediation may feel strange at first. However, after your first meeting, it can become much easier. 

You may be tempted to back out before the first meeting (or just after), but mediation really could be the best divorce option for you. Why not try it out for a few sessions at least? 

Divorce mediation requires communication and compromise from all parties, but it can be far less stressful than a litigated divorce. As you consider your divorce options, make sure you've sought guidance from someone who can explain your legal rights in more detail.