Control your emotional attachments to things in a divorce

Posted by Adrian S. Doty, Esq. | Mar 04, 2022 | 0 Comments

People become emotionally attached to specific items. For some, this could be the home where they raised their children because of the memories they have there. For others, it might be a vacation timeshare where the family spent a lot of time. 

When you end a marriage, you have to split up the property that you amassed during the relationship. While it's easy to let emotions rule the decisions you make during this process, you must think logically about everything. 

Use logic, not emotion, during the property division process

Before you sit down with your ex to negotiate the property division settlement, take the time to come up with a budget. Many assets that you may have the option of walking away with come with a cost. You have to be sure you can handle that cost. Remember, you won't have your ex's income to help you pay for things so your budget must be based only on what you earn. 

Take the time to evaluate the true cost of keeping those assets. For example, factor in the mortgage, as well as insurance, taxes, and upkeep on a home if you're trying to get the marital home. Making sure that you can afford all the extra expenses can reduce your stress later. 

The property division process of the divorce is best handled in a logical manner. You need to think carefully about what the possible divisions could mean for your future. Work with an individual who can help you realize the impacts of these decisions. Ultimately, you must do what's best for you as you end the marriage.

About the Author

Adrian S. Doty, Esq.

Adrian Doty is a Senior Associate Attorney at Sunnen Law. Mr. Doty began his legal career working as a civil litigation attorney in Los Angeles before moving to the Bay Area in 2014 where he gained complex civil and family law litigation experience working for one of the largest family law firms.He has experience with a variety of complex Family Law matters, including complex and high-net-worth case matters custody and visitation disputes, contempt and post-judgment enforcement, military-family law issues, and domestic violence restraining orders. Mr. Doty understands how emotionally difficult family law matters can be, which is why he is dedicated to the efficient management of his client's cases. While he always works to achieve settlements through negotiation when possible, he aggressively litigates to protect his clients' interests when necessary. 


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