Making the most of a co-parenting relationship

Posted by Adrian S. Doty, Esq. | Feb 04, 2022 | 0 Comments

When people decide to end their relationship, it is not usually a decision that they take lightly. Often, former spouses appreciate the clean break that a divorce can offer. For people who have children together, a co-parenting relationship will need to be maintained after the separation.

Hard feelings that stem from the split can make it hard to work together. If your ex is being uncooperative, you should try to focus on making the situation as good as possible so the children don't suffer.

Avoid overreacting

At times, your ex may provoke an argument with the sole purpose of getting an equivalent reaction from you. For the most part, issues aren't worth fighting over if they don't have a negative impact on the child's health or safety. Keep your child's best interests at the center of focus and ensure that your co-parent is fulfilling their legal obligations. 

Compromise when possible

Sometimes, effective communication methods can prevent or put an end to a conflict. While this won't work with an unreasonable co-parent, it might be possible if your ex really wants what's best for the children. Try to remain calm and talk through issues if possible. Pick and choose what you're willing to battle over so you don't waste your time or energy on pointless matters.

Ultimately, you have to ensure that you're following the parenting plan set for the children. This should be set up as soon as possible after you split up from the other parent. The points in the plan should reflect the best interests of the children, which could mean that you need creative solutions. Work with someone who's familiar with cases like yours so you can draw from their knowledge. This might alleviate some of the stress associated with divorce. 

About the Author

Adrian S. Doty, Esq.

Adrian Doty is a Senior Associate Attorney at Sunnen Law. Mr. Doty began his legal career working as a civil litigation attorney in Los Angeles before moving to the Bay Area in 2014 where he gained complex civil and family law litigation experience working for one of the largest family law firms.He has experience with a variety of complex Family Law matters, including complex and high-net-worth case matters custody and visitation disputes, contempt and post-judgment enforcement, military-family law issues, and domestic violence restraining orders. Mr. Doty understands how emotionally difficult family law matters can be, which is why he is dedicated to the efficient management of his client's cases. While he always works to achieve settlements through negotiation when possible, he aggressively litigates to protect his clients' interests when necessary. 


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